How to Handle a Friend's Tears

How to Handle a Friend's Tears

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I ran into a friend recently. We hadn’t seen each other in a while, so we were going through the rituals of reconnecting. We hugged; we exchanged the usual volley of questions: How’s everything? What have you been up to? Her eyes, however, weren’t “usual.” They were brimming over with tears...

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A Simple 4-Step Equation for Helping a Friend in Pain

A Simple 4-Step Equation for Helping a Friend in Pain

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Cancer survivor Emily McDowell made the national news this summer with a line of genuinely comforting “empathy” cards. Her cards debunk those easy-to-say platitudes that can be pleasing on coffee mugs and wall calendars but sound hollow when life is in a million pieces, and you don’t know how to get from one day to the next...

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3 Ways to Help a Friend Through a Difficult Anniversary

3 Ways to Help a Friend Through a Difficult Anniversary

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I got married on October 3, 1992, in almost pitch darkness. I had always wanted an evening wedding with candlelight. Aside from the romantic reasons, people generally look better in candlelight. Earlier that day, I’d had a huffy little tête-à-tête over it with my childhood church choir director, Judy...

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